Divorce news, in the Telegraph, with the news of a rise in divorce rate among couples living with their grown-up children:
Rise of the cuckoo couples: how children returning to the nest with their new partners could be fuelling divorce among older generation
To many parents with grown up children, the prospect of them joining the so-called “boomerang generation” and moving back in with them, even temporarily, might be a welcome return and a chance to relive happy memories.
If they also have a spouse or partner and children to bring along, many will welcome that even more.
Leaving aside the pejorative “boomerang generation” title (aka a generation unable to adequately save up deposits for spiralling house prices due to the burdens of rising rental costs from private landlords), that there’s a spoke in divorce seems a surprising outcome, if true:
Divorce lawyers report a small but growing number of relationships breaking up because of the influence of so-called “cuckoo couples” – adult children and their partners moving and effectively driving out their stepfather or stepmother.
That the report is made by a firm likely to cash in on any spike in requirement for divorce advice somewhat lessens the independence of the research.
Sam Hall, a partner in Hall Brown Family Law, said he is now seeing dozens of such cases a year. He estimates there has been a fivefold increase in the last three years in the number of second marriages ending because of the tensions generated by having adult children living under the same roof.
The national-news-worthy incidence of divorce under these circumstances is apparently as high as “dozens”. That’s “dozens” of “boomerang-caused” divorces, out of a divorce rate of around 110,000-120,000 per year, incidentally. Quite the epidemic. Says Sam:
“What may be relatively normal domestic disagreements between two parents living on their own are given an extra edge by the presence of an adult child and often perceived as a taking of sides.
“Most of these cases involve at least one spouse who has previously been divorced or widowed. They may have viewed a second marriage as a means of comfort in later life but have told me that exiting an unhappy relationship as preferable to remaining in a marriage made intolerable by these sorts of pressures.”
And if these reasonable people want out of these intolerable relationships, I’m sure Hall Brown Family Law are only too happy to capitalise on the nudge this story may provide.